For my birthday in April Luke gave me a package to a popular cycling class in Malibu. We’ve enjoyed going together and I’ve been amazed at how much Luke loves it… maybe more than me. It’s a great work out, lots of fun, and one of the few activities that actually leaves me exhausted afterwards. We love it.
This weekend’s class was similar to all the others we have been to except for one tiny detail, some advice that our instructor gave us that I have not been able to shake.
This class is known for high energy instructors, big personalities, loud music and moments of inspiration. During a challenging part of class our instructor attempted to motivate us with these words of “wisdom.”
“Don’t like your job? Quit! Find a new job! Your boyfriend or girlfriend not working out? Husband or wife? Life is too short!”
I couldn’t believe what I had just heard. Moving on from a boyfriend or girlfriend is one thing but placing that into the same category as husband and wife? Luke and I looked at each other and almost in unison said, “no!”
We believe words are a blessing or a curse. Which category do you think the above falls in? While her advice was meant to be an encouragement her call to action was “QUIT!”
Too hard? Quit!
Your marriage isn’t perfect? Quit!
As I rode next to Luke and wrestled with her words, I began to pray.
Luke and I have not yet reached our two-year anniversary and I understand that I’m young. There are many people who have been married for years that can give far better advice than me but one thing that I have learned during our first year of marriage is how powerful words are and that what we say really does alter not just conversations but the way that people think about themselves, others, and you. Words are powerful.
“Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Proverbs 18:21
My reason for writing about this is not only to process her comments but to share with you my commitment to not only think twice about what I say but to hear what others speak over me and see if it aligns with the truth of my life.
The truth about my life is this:
I will never quit on Luke Landers. I’m committed to him regardless of hardship. I won’t give up in the face of adversity and I won’t cower if my job becomes difficult. I will not partner with passivity or hold hands with fear. I won’t look for a new friend if a relationship becomes challenging and I won’t agree with anyone who encourages different actions than the above.
Let me be clear. I am not condemning our instructor, I don’t think she’s a bad person, we enjoyed the workout she led and will be back to the studio again. But the resolve I left that class with probably isn’t what she expected.
As we peddled into the hill portion of class shortly after she shared her thoughts, I leaned over to Luke and whispered, “Til death do us part.”